The Limits of Vision

When you close your eyes, what do you see? Now, now don't answer to quickly ... try it out and see. What is that ?
Is there movement of sorts?
Is there a color that you pick up on ?

Let me ask you this, if a person is in a car accident and for some or other reason loses his or her eye sight, that person is called disabled. Right ? But what happened when you closed your eyes? All of a sudden your other senses kicked into overdrive, the sounds was a slight bit more clearer, more crisp, the smell of the air around you, was far more "visible" to you, you sensed some action in your body, maybe hot, cold, tingling, You even tasted the aroma of the chemicals in your mouth. When something really tastes good for you, have you ever wondered why you tilt your head slightly up and close your eyes. When you smell that first morning air of the ocean, you do the same, slightly up and eyes closed. When some asks you " ... did you hear that ...?" and you strain to listen to hear if you hear the same sound, you close your eyes.

Now why do we emphasize sight so much when even the senses know the balance ? They know for one to rise "above" the rest, the others, just have to stand back a bit and allow for the experience of that sense to grow, engulf and to enrich. Why then do we marginalize the others and with our mind we have already given away the throne of the senses ?

Your body knows balance, it knows how to balance itself out.

And when that feeling, that gut intuition of yours speaks, not to walk down this road, do you listen? What is that? A sense? A sense of what ? Survival ? Enlightenment ? Or just something in between ?
Why do we so seldom include that in the balance we so desperately want to achieve, because if one is not present, the others have to work harder. And you have it, believe me you have it!

Great Expectations

When you go for a job interview, do you want that job ? Silly question isn't it ? Of course I want the job! Otherwise I would not go for it!
In so many ways we create our own demise, we see something we want and we simply go for it. Yes, isn't that the "Secret" ?

Let's step one step back, just for a moment ... Imagine a dot, very small on a blank sheet of A4 paper, make that dot, own it and call it " Point A". Now point a is what people call "Now" or the "Moment of Now". There is no dot like it, never will be again and there never was in all the moments of time, since the first spinning cycle of the Universe in time.
Now for simplicity sake we call this dot "Reality".

Move your hand, directly right or East from the "Reality", it doesn't matter how far, that I leave up to you, you will know. Now, when arriving at the second location, make another dot, but imagine for a moment that this location is known, in it's dimensions, color, size, the associated feelings, this place you do know, you already own it.
Now call this dot "Expectation".

Let's move back to our example in the beginning ... whizzzz ... and we are back in time. You go for an interview and you have an expectation, to a lesser or otherwise degree that you are good enough for this job. This job is yours, you already own it! At which dot are you now ? As days pass from the interview, your phone does not ring ... Well, the rest you know.
Down miserable message isn't it ?

No.

Since going for the interview at Point A, "Reality" and your expectations at Point B, "Expectation", there seem to be a gap, now look at the gap you created between your two dots. What is that ? Time ? Space ?

No, that my friends is Emotion, there is the emotion of what the reality is and what you want to see happen. There is the place that you need to work, not at point A or B, they are taken care of. But then again of we bring Point B closer and closer to Point A and we really work hard at seeing a thing, situation or surrounding just for what it is, beautiful, the associated emotion decreases.

Is emotion bad then? Now, that is another story

Power of the Question

Now , if I were you boss and you asked me for a raise, I would say "No".

"What ?", "why?", " ...  I don't believe it ... ", is this not  most of the time the natural response or reaction that we have when we ask for something ? When we ask for something and Life return the answer, "Yes, I acknowledge your request to get more money." Full Stop. And you are now bewildered to learn that you do not get the good things owed to you.

No who owes you, the good stuff I mean ? Is it your boss, maybe your church or community? Maybe Life itself ? Now, ask yourself, "Why?", not "Why ... me ...", no Why did the good stuff not come your way ?You asked in a very clear and understandable manner, what you wanted and it did not come. Why ?
The why-me question is the question of a victim, and as you would slowly get to know me, bit by bit, you would realize that I do not believe in victims, the only place where you can claim victimhood, is in the essence of your choice, more specifically, your question. what am I rambling about ? Well, the only victim is not one of circumstance, environment and or surroundings, but only of the self. You created or assisted the co-creation for a specific experience the moment of Now, to have taken place. How can I say, the inevitable took place, to let a mother drown her baby a man rapes a woman an person mugs another, and then claim, or even dare claim, that I had something to do with that? So my rape is my fault ? My injuries is my doing?

I most definitely answer yes. Did you listen to that small voice inside that does not scream, but whispers in the wind? The one to tell you to take the long road home, the one that told me to go home earlier, that hunch I had to call that distressed mother and said I'll do it tomorrow ...

The only Being you can ask something of is Yourself. Whether you follow a certain religion, cult or sect, a community spirit or a formal bible study group. The question lies in Your worthiness.

Now review your inner most feelings and ask me for a raise again, maybe now, you will understand my answer.

Giving while Earning

The old legend of giving a person a fish, they will eat for a day, but teach them how to fish, the will live a life. Ok, ok, I changed it a bit, but still, there is a giver in all of us.

Now on the other side of the coin there is of course the con artists and "takers" that believe that there is not enough in the world and they will do anything to take what you have, even dishonestly robbing the old lady pension to make a buck and with the rising sun, will disappear as mist before the sun.

Now, in my gentle years on this planet I have come across schemes, man they are full of ... well you know what, but yet I still sense that people, young and old, rich and poor, middle class or otherwise still wants to give. Everybody that I talked to, specifically giving, all agree, in whatever shape or form, they like to give. Whether you help a friend in tough times by opening your home and Giving a bed, or a brother or sister that is down in his luck and still has not realized that they hold the key to their ability to give, or whether it be the guy on the corner standing with a hollow hand, hoping to inspire you with their plight of desperation. It does not matter how you Give, but rather that you do.

Now, the intension of Giving is of course the important bit, if we give and feel that we want something in return. There is no Giving. Once asked my brother about investments or trading on the stock market and his reply was simple, yet profound; " ... If you can't go out right now and give that amount that you want to invest to the first person you meet on the street, in cash and then walk away not missing that money, you are ready to invest (Give) ... "

Now, thinking about Giving is simply a transactional exchange of energy, not a mystical plight of meta physical meaning, but simply that. You are giving your energy (time, money and or effort) to another that needs upliftment and in exchange you accept gratefulness, gratitude or a simple thank you. Have you Gived and almost felt lighter, warmer and almost could not wipe the smile of your face after you Gived ? That is your portion of the exchange.

Now as said earlier I have come across some schemes in my day. But recently I came across a plan to reward you for giving and in the same transaction give to the charity or purpose of your choice. How does that work? Well, I am currently busy formulating a presentation for you, I though this was one of the best "schemes":that I have come across that is actually a win-win situation.

Come back soon and I will give You the link.

When is it enough

The strange thing about Faith, no not the religious kind, but more the faith that resides in ourselves, allow us to endure the most horrible undertakings and even in some cases the amount of awfulness in our surroundings and situations, we always somehow know that things will eventually get better.

Now what is that, we tend to look at things, almost in a sense that they can do whatever they think to do, but we will eventually just Be OK. In so many instances that I have read about torture in military war situations and the survivors (please note the selected word, not victims), the detainees tend to survive will endure the most horrifying treatments, on whatever is inside them, but the strange thing is that those people seem to grow stronger as the inevitable reacher closer.

We all saw the images of natural disasters, planes that fall out of the sky, even when 9/11 struck, we looked and when I spoke to people about the incident, I sensed not grief nor sadness, but hope. The one element of our survival that we can just not quantify, nor can be bottle it. But yet we all possess it. And we all know, we can not run out of it.

Coming back to faith, we believe in ourselves, in our community, our people, our traditions, our culture and above all in our survival. We know we will be OK. And come hell or high water we will look upon ourselves and see that thing we can not explain to our neighbor, but yet we do not fear, because they sense it too.

And with that we believe All is Well.

The Color Black

It amazed me the other day, when I started thinking about black, how much emotion and value is added to the color black. Some people think of it as a evil, dark (opposite to light), cool, maybe power ?
But now the thing that you have to remember is what does the color black mean to You ?

Aah, the questions again from this crazy man, how we hate to ask what questions mean to us. Damn, we want to look elsewhere for the answer, we do not know it, right?
Remember the power lies in the correct question, never in the answer!

But after asking a lot of questions of myself regarding the color black. Yes, I too have questions regarding life and the life beyond site sometimes; But after not finding the answer that feels right to me, I approached a friend of mine, explaining the concept of color, more in terms of physics, rather than the visual, basically the frequencies of the various colors as we see it today. That did not quite seem to fit either.

I went forth and try to look from a polarization's point of view, I mean opposites to again review black. I mean all the years I can remember I had a strong resonating ability to dark colors and more specifically the color black. Black cars, suits, shirts, shoes, I like it. But black the opposite of white answer just didn't fit. And the other night I was watching the old movie Michael, you know the one where he is the archangel and in one scene they played a word game, where he asked  the  opposite of white. Now that is black, yes? But the answer was "no light".

I then went to old trusted Google to find the color black in terms of quantum physics, meaning probability. I should find at least a theory there, but again struck by failure, I just couldn't find anything that seems to fit just right for Me. I grant all the clever people in the various scientific fields that they are extremely clever and knows quite a lot, but there answers didn't feel right, not wrong either, but almost as if there is more to find, aaah, yes, it became a quest!

Then I came upon this article, more spiritual in nature that explains the chakras or energy centers of the body and a link from there showed colors, well naturally I moved there and try to discover my beloved black. And there is it was, "Black is the color of stillness". Immediately relieved in realizing my adventure was over. That I truly resonate with. I drifted back to those night dives in Larnaka on that old stripped clean and abandoned wreck, looking up, hovering on your back an seeing the moonlight shine through the surface, you could just Be ... still

Restraining Relationships

Now, what can I say about the weekend gone by, "wow" could be one word.
It is strange when you think of a mirror, that the simplicity of a mirror is the one that allows for the best tool of learning. Now, as a good friend of mine always says, "Pain is the best Teacher". Although I do not always agree with that, the lesson of this weekend was quite profound and I must admit, it stung quite a bit!

Why do we limit ourselves? You might say, " ... but I can not do that, get the specialist ... ", or " ... I have tried it before, I can not do it ... ". We don't think about the amount of limiting thoughts that we have in one single day, how much we limit ourselves.
Now considering the amount of soul mirrors we have available to us, it is almost amazing to hear people say, " ... but I just didn't know ..." or " ... I didn't see this coming ... ". We tend to look elsewhere especially when things get a bit close to home and we almost "ignore" the possibility that this is the very message that is actually meant for us.

Now, I try my very best to do the opposite, and I will be the first one to admit, sometimes ... it is extremely hard and damn painful at times. Now the weekend gone past I had the opportunity to visit with family and as usual arguments did play a significant role. Just to give you a bit of background, we were never taught to sit in the back of the bus, we were taught to have an opinion. Nobody was more important than the other. I still remember the first time I brought my ex-wife to her first Sunday lunch, she sat there almost dumbstruck and dropped jaw at the amount of dialog that is running simultaneously between the family members. It is almost as if the amount of noise is similar to one of the battle scenes from Braveheart.

But as we had our usual rowdy discussions, there was a time when a noticed that the amount of limits that was put on relationships was astounding. So, customary, I moved to a more solitary place for a couple of moments and asked the powers that Be, " ... where am I limiting the relationships in my life ? ". As you probably guessed, no answer, but it bugged me greatly so I kept at it for about five hours, not continuously, there was a lovely Sunday lunch prepared you know.

As the evening fell, I came to the realization, that the limits was being set inside myself. I was limiting myself, my own worst enemy! No there we go, what now. After some time late into the night and lots of coffee, I got to the point of "I am not worthy". My questioned my own self worth, that was the essence. I did not believe I can own a million, billion or even a trillion bucks. No Ferrari, no beach house, no island of my own, I was telling the big great void, I do not want abundance. Well, call that a slap in the face!

This morning  I vowed to counter any "negative" thought or word or action with a small mantra of " ... I am worthy ... ".

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A New Start

After months of agonizing of what is the new direction I should implement in my business. Well after reviewing the comments and suggestions from friends, family, inspirational individuals and generally people that just email me out of the blue, I took a hard, new look at my way of thinking, doing a lot of introspection to see that my ego is not inhibiting my own as well as the general direction of my business.

So I looked at the things that play a significant role in my life and I came to the realization that I am concentrating too much on business and not enough on people.
So what about people? What is the things that is concerning me about people?
The thing I picked up is the attraction to the femininity in us, not only in women, but in all of us.

I sensed the possibility of us are constantly denying our femininity, in guys we tend to label the other males to ensure that we "push" the other down, almost from a place in ourselves that power reigns free and instead of rising to the impossible heights we can, we drag the other down to our level that is a mere illusion.

We are all equal and there is nothing we can do to change it.

In the female sex, it is almost the same where a soft and gentle soul, allows us to move again to a "dominant" position, to a place we lift ourselves, where we don't belong. Not because we can't or it may be wrong, but rather a place where we shouldn't be. And we know it. That's it! We know what is the thing to do, but yet we don't.

We are so focused on being strong, being fast, better anything we can do to prove our superiority! Maybe we should move slower, listen more, be more patient and just being, nothing more.